I began working at the age of 15 to help support my mother financially, who raised me in the absence of my biological father.

At an early age, I was very aware of the severe financial constraints we were grappling with but became very concerned as a young teenager when it hindered my post-secondary education. During this season, I imagined what our lives would have been like if my father were present to protect and provide the security we needed emotionally, socially, psychologically, financially, spiritually, physically, and otherwise.

I felt all the deep-seated emotions that came with having unanswered questions around his absence. In fact, witnessing the overwhelming burden of single parenting experienced by my mother didn't help matters at all, as it stirred up in me a desperate desire to magically fix the predicaments.

What I didn’t realize is that at that age, I had silently and unconsciously begun to develop a survival resolve to never depend on anyone for security and support, given the repeated inconsistencies I experienced over time. Growing up without a father had left deep scars, creating a constant whisper and manifestation of identity crises that sometimes showed up as independence with a heavy weight.

As I navigated through life, the experience of fatherlessness left a lasting impression—a sense that no accomplishment was ever sufficient, as if something crucial was perpetually absent. The pressure to measure up to others, who I had perceived to have security received from both parents, only deepened the sting of inadequacy.

Have you ever felt like something invisible is holding you back—like an unspoken weight you can’t quite name?

For women and girls who grew up without a healthy father-to-daughter relationship, this burden often comes in the form of hidden wounds, fears, and dysfunctional patterns that impact their lives in unexpected ways. The challenges, often disguised as strengths, are more common than you think.

Transformation begins with understanding these weights and how they play out in your life. Personally, I had to undergo what I often call a "holistic internal surgery" to unearth the fears, dysfunctions, hidden wounds, and patterns in my life before true transformation could take place.

The desire to see you aware of the wounds, the walls, and the whispers that fatherlessness has deposited in you is the solid reason we’ve created the soon-to-be-launched UNLOCK Personality Test.